Realist

I'm a realist. I know that Jenny is not getting the care that she deserves. She deserves better care than I can give.

This year marks 59 years since we married and 63 years since we met. Jenny is a wonderful wife, mother, and grandmother. I owe her so much more than I can give. She's a wonderful person. I love her so much.

I have zero training in being a caregiver. I can't cook or do many of the other things that Jenny did for me and for our children over the past 59 years.

I'm impatient. I struggle with the weight of all of the tasks that shift to me as her dementia worsens.

I'm a lousy caregiver. It pains me that I can't give Jenny the care that she deserves.

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