Please don't take my sunshine away

You've seen the TV commercials. Dementia is a cruel disease. For many it's the ultimate marriage buster. One partner ends up living in a memory care center and the other partner lives alone. How's that for cruelty?

Neither the government, nor the medical field, nor the private sector, nor religion has the answer. 

Please don't take my sunshine away.


You are my sunshine,
my only sunshine.

You make me happy
when skies are grey.

You'll never know, dear
how much I love you.

Please don't take my sunshine away.

 

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